The relationships between men and women have always been a hot topic. Human culture, various pieces of art (paintings, sculptures, novels, movies…) are filled with stories and discussions related to this phenomenon. Of course, it is all about love and dating. The concept of dating in its modern form is relatively fresh – but the main problems have already crystallized. Today we are going to explore an interesting sphere of male mindset. Simply put, we will figure out why men are afraid of dating. Yes, some men are not only revolted by the buzz about commitment and marriage but are also frightened by dating itself.
Dating is expensive. Hello, mister Gobseck! How are you doing today? Yes, men sometimes suggest dating is too costly and they will not be able to pay for everything. For women, it sounds rather weird. First, men do not have to buy expensive presents during the initial phase of a relationship. Second, visiting fancy restaurants with crab cakes and one-hundred-year-old French wine is optional (or we should better say excessive). Only gold-diggers look for money. Your huge expenses will leastways bewilder decent and caring girls. However, dating can be expensive if you look only for sex dates. You will have to pay for everything in order to get what you want. Nevertheless, this concept has nothing to do with dating.
You cannot be yourself. Most of you have heard this recommendation, “be yourself!” Well, implementing this bit of advice, you had probably seen how delirious that idea was. Being yourself with others is a matter of reliance. It will take a lot of time to build trust between two of you. Afterward, you will be able to demonstrate your real personality. However, decent women will always love you for who you are – and, therefore, appreciate all of your virtues and oddities.
Dating can lead to rejection. The majority of men (in fact, the majority of both men and women) have been in unsuccessful relationships. People tend to believe that the pattern of miserable rejection will spread over all of their future relationships. Yeah, we know, it sometimes terribly hurts if someone abruptly abandons you. The aim is to understand what was wrong (it may also be you who ruined everything) and move on. Of course, it will take some time, but the feeling of freedom from previous faults is truly incomparable. You just cannot live happily without this feeling.
Sex is something you can get without responsibilities. Men don’t like responsibilities and commitments, which is quite natural. Why would a man start dating a woman if the only thing he needs right now is casual sex? No, he would not. Nonetheless, random sexual partners will eventually make you feel exhausted. Moreover, sexually transmitted diseases are still a thing. Even with maximal precautions, you cannot be sure if everything is going to be fine. Responsibility will save the world!